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Women 50+ struggling with stress

June 29, 2020 by susan

Today’s focus: Are you a mother whose children are grown up, have left home and you don’t feel needed anymore?

For many women this is the time of life when you may have planned to live dreams, go on new adventures, take up a hobby , change direction professionally.But the best laid plans can become lost or forgotten.

Stress triggers in women 50+ is a subject often discussed and can be fraught with anxiety for several reasons. Feelings of sadness and loss as children become more independent or leave home can be painfully real. The empty nest syndrome is potentially a major stress trigger for parents and arguably more women can struggle with this problem.

Our emotional health affects our physical health

May 26, 2020 by susan

Without question our emotional health affects our physical health. Stress will cause physical health to be compromised, challenged, weakened.

What happens to your body when a stressor is released or ended?

All things Divorce related are difficult to say the least. Please be aware that when the divorce stress is lessened, somehow it appears that your physical health is becoming challenging, then self-healing can be a major factor in recovery.

Do not doubt this; you can help yourself. I offer support with my Lifestyle Prescriptions® Health Coaching , EFT Tapping and my Healthy Lifestyles, Healthy Eating 4 week Programme.

My message

Whilst on holiday last year and after returning from a long walk across the sand dunes in Cornwall, I rested and caught up with my Lifestyle Prescriptions® Health Coaching class, which I missed ‘Live’. I love it. I have tools and techniques to move clients to a place of real emotional and physical healing.
For those who have tried everything else with no results, now is the time to be stunned by all you can achieve when you access your own stored information. That’s the good stuff hiding away in your 95% subconscious brain. I help you access that information and together we help you be, and feel, better.

Fears which dominate are in your 5% conscious brain

Self-healing empowers and offers a release from continual medication, but

perhaps you may be fearful because you need your required medication
you’re fearful because your medication is no longer so effective (chronic symptoms can reduce the power /effectiveness of medicines)
But at a self-healing level you can work alongside, (or not) and can still gain from all the modern marvels.

Subconscious and Conscious Brain

At a conscious level we are only working with 5% of our brain so all our decisions and thinking are made using that 5% . And that 5% holds our beliefs and the information which jumps to the front when we try to make what we THINK are good decisions.

Key Point

Your physical health may deteriorate briefly or longterm and that will surprise you BECAUSE, you probaly THINK that the stress is over so why should you be feeling so physically ill, run down, low.

Your intelligent body goes into Regeneration when a stress is resolved, over, lessened and the body takes an opportunity to heal, to become strong. And that is when you have the unwanted and undesirable health symptoms, illness, major or minor. It is the body rebalancing and outwith your conscious control.

What I offer

I help you to reduce and clear the Root Cause of a health symptom, chronic illness and pain, without continual medication.

I help you access the information you hold, because you can never think it out. And then the work begins to clear the energy around that Stress Trigger/Root Cause. The symptom can be gone, chronic or otherwise.

My new Healthy Lifestyle, Healthy Eating programme is proving very successful; a joyous feeling for me.

I also offer a 20 minute Root Cause Analysis session for your specific symptom. After that you hold the answers. I can facilitate your journey. Committed client work is required. M: 07917680967

The downloadable book, ‘The 6 Root Causes of Health Symptoms’ contains more information and can be found within this link: Lifestyle Prescriptions University.

Susan is the author of Survive and Thrive after Trauma.

Has your sex life changed during Lockdown?

May 14, 2020 by susan Leave a Comment

So, I was in the garden planting up this morning and thoughts popped into my head. One thought led to this Post and I have some questions.

I am posting to highlight a subject which I suspect is quietly questioned by women, and thought about more often by men: Sex.

The main question to ponder is: During Lockdown if you are living with a long term partner, or a relatively new partner, has your sex life changed for the better or for the worse?

I do not offer answers this Post offers is an opportunity for consideration. Has your sex life improved or is there room for discussion with your partner?

Points for consideration during this time of Lockdown

Are you having more or less sex?
Different sex or more meaningful sex?
Do you talk about your sex life with each other?
Has an increased sex life brought you closer to your partner?
Because it’s been so long since the sex subject was discussed or initiated, does your lack of a sex life cause you stress?
Do you dread the silent hints from your partner when there is pressure for more sex?
Has sex been initiated by both of you or is it a one way initiation; one partner just complies?
Has lack of sex been something that does not cause any concern?
Perhaps your sex life is just fine thank you!
Are you worried or embarrassed to discuss sex? See Why You Won’t Talk About Sexual Issues With Your Partner

For those working as normal during Lockdown maybe all is well. Nothing has changed, you’re not looking for change. Or perhaps this post may highlight where change could be made.

If you are

In a convenient relationship and sex plays no part
In the unfortunate situation where your relationship has ended and you are awaiting a solution and sex plays no part
Divorced, single and looking for a relationship.
Then I address the sex topic within my Home Study Programme ‘It’s Time to Move On‘.

The points I have raised can offer thought, action or a just leave well alone response. The topic of sex is something we Brits are not known to discuss with ease.
No-one knows what goes on behind closed doors? But relationships are important.

Age is irrelevant and of course men and woman can have different biological needs and each will respond to the questions accordingly. But both parties deserve to be heard. It’s a two way deal. There will however be difficulty if there are unwritten or unspoken rules within a relationship.
In my opinion that can be unhealthy.

Key Point

Never assume your partner knows or remotely understands your silence, whatever the subject. It may work in your benefit to talk more.

Lockdown can be a timely opportunity to give this important part of your relationship some time, thought and energy. Are you content about the intimate part of your relationship?

Benefits

From a positive outlook sex in a relationship can be good for the soul. It can make you feel better, happier and more able to get through the day.
Have the conversation with your partner if you want change, whatever that is. Or, smile, enjoy the feeling of ease and added benefits you sense as a couple from Lockdown.

Relationships

Relationships need work, difficult topics can be addressed. Speak with your partner. Balance and equality are key.

Imbalance brings in the negative feelings of unfairness, “I can’t speak up, I’m frightened, I’ve waited too long to discuss it”.
It is never too long to initiate discussion if you place great value on your relationship and are aware that complacency is not useful long term.
Stress and anxiety can affect your sex life.

Thank you for reading.

If this Post has triggered feelings of self-doubt, low self-esteem. Please ring 07917 680967 for a free chat. You are important and relationships are important too.

Susan is the author of Survive and Thrive after Trauma

Susan works with Stress and Anxiety and the Why the body presents chronic health symptoms

Healthy Lifestyle, Healthy Eating Programme

April 7, 2020 by susan Leave a Comment

Healthy Lifestyle, Healthy Eating Programme

Four Sessions of 1-1 Coaching : 4 places available: sessions over Zoom.

My name is Susan (Cowe) Miller and I have 4 one to one places available on my Healthy Lifestyle, Healthy Eating Coaching Programme.

So! you are ready to address eating habits, work through troublesome emotions, feel physically healthier and emotionally stronger. The time is right.

Who do I wish to attract as clients?

Four people committed and eager to work with a specialist Coach to get the best out of life and all it offers. You know that being physically and emotionally stronger will also mean that you feel revitalised and confident.

Is that you?

I only work with 4 clients on this programme at one time.

Results you can expect:

Your opportunity to facilitate positive change in Emotional and Physical Health Symptoms.
A reduction and/or clearing of a chronic health symptom or chronic pain, with or without continual medication.

How and Why can I offer these results.: Because your physical health will improve as your emotional health strengthens.

Added benefits:

A reduction and/or clearing of Anxiety related emotions, endless negative mind chatter, unhelpful thoughts and an out of date belief system.
Goals set in place, easily maintained, instilling hope and confidence.
A clearing of an unresolved emotional hurt or physical health symptom: big or small.
Something once seen as a challenge now becomes an achievable goal.

How I deliver:

At the end of each session your recharged confidence and desire to follow my Lifestyle Prescriptions® mean that the goals we have set together are manageable, and not scary.

You do hold the answers; I facilitate the release of those answers.

I hold you accountable each week for your actions in achieving the small and prescriptive changes.

The tools and techniques used to facilitate change help you manage and clear fears and procrastination. Doubts, anxieties, limiting beliefs can be left behind as new confidence can become the norm, ever enhancing a sense of empowerment and inner strength.

When: One hour a week, for 4 weeks.

Where: Online via Zoom, Skype or Messenger

What do I offer?

I offer my experience.

Practitioner of 10 years facilitating change in Emotional Healing and Stress Management.
Lifestyle Prescriptions® Health Coach
Person Centred Counselling
EFT and Matrix ReImprinting Practitioner
Tools and techniques to make changes and to find the Root Cause of a negative belief or a physically challenging health symptom
Author of ‘Survive and Thrive after Trauma.

Why take this opportunity?

The time is right

To commit to doing the work
You prefer guidance and help to manage the little but powerfully effective changes

The cost: £350.

To find out more please:

Call me to book your place, or to find out more please call M: Mobile: 07917 680967

Email me: susan@hampshire-eft.co.uk

Read recommendations on my website www.hampshire-eft.co.uk , Facebook Business page.

I always ask my clients how they found me. The answer I have received 80% of the time is simple. They said they looked on The Web, and decided it was me who ticked many of the boxes.

I call them ‘My out of the blue clients’ and I am eternally grateful.

HeartMath Breathing: reduce panic attack and anxiety

December 8, 2019 by susan Leave a Comment

HeartMath breathing to reduce panic attacks

What is Heart Math Breathing?

It is a simple and beneficial technique to quell stressful feelings and to enhance calmness and wellbeing. [Read more…] about HeartMath Breathing: reduce panic attack and anxiety

Chest Infections : Seasonal health symptoms

December 2, 2019 by susan Leave a Comment

A Chest Infection might be thought of as a seasonal health symptom, understood by many at base level with a resignation of acceptance: Not this again! Why? It runs its unwanted course causing annoyance, pain and very unpleasant symptoms.

From a Lifestyle Prescriptions® Health Coach viewpoint, I am highlighting Chest infections, but the information within this Post works for many physical health symptoms or emotional health symptoms.

All you want is to feel better, healthier, rid of this ailment

And maybe you’d prefer to better manage these recurring symptoms without strong medication. Or maybe you are quietly worried because the medication just does not seem to be working so effectively.

How I help you reduce and/or clear your symptoms

You explore how small and sustainable change can become powerful and manageable new lifestyle habits. You learn how unresolved emotional hurts and trauma shape negative mind chatter and beliefs which seem dominant in your day to day life.

With a chest infection there are specific questioning routes a LPHC (Lifestyle Prescriptions® Health Coach) will take to uncover the underlying reasons WHY you may have this symptom. Specific questions relating to chest infections reveal feelings/a sense of/ an inner knowing of:

feelings of fear, feelings of suffocation, beliefs of suffocating for some reason
fearful situations going on around your territorial space (see explanation below)
feeling scared or frightened, death fright fears

And then very specific tools and techniques are shared to help you feel better and potentially reduce and clear the root cause of this health symptom.

Key Point: If chronic, a specific stress related trigger will start the same cycle of ill health, or anxiety based symptom, again and again.

What is Territorial space?

Territorial space triggers may relate to your place of work, your life with a partner, a family concern; something territorial to you. I work with the Organ, Mind, Brain connection. I facilitate your ability to implement change to your health problem.

There’s plenty you can do to start helping yourself. Keeping dates, seeing patterns to your illness are key to you and your coach or therapist.

Consider:

What might have been causing recent stress?
What life event happened recently which I know caused substantial stress?
Can you remember when a chest infection first showed up your life?
IMPORTANT. What major stressful life event may have happened way back that you can relate to, especially at the same time of year as your symptom drops in to visit again. That event may be the trigger to the pattern and timescale of your health symptom? (a bit like allergies that kick in seasonally ….which can be worked through the same way ) . In time it takes lesser related stress for same triggers to be set off. That’s because unresolved emotional hurt is so ingrained at cellular level.

Why you are feeling ill

When you are feeling ill there is a self-healing process going on, specific to your unwanted health symptom. I shall endeavour to make this explanation simple: Your chest infection ( or health symptom)…

A Stress Trigger was activated.
The body tissue became stressed. Stress Phase.
The stress was over which activated the Regeneration Trigger.
The Regeneration Phase kicked in.
And that is when the body begins healing; you feel ill.

Key Information: This is the body’s super intelligence self-healing process at work. If you are interested I offer a free chat to help you understand what is going on. It’s going on regardless of you trying to fight it, question it.

At a conscious level we only work with 5% conscious brain. The information stored in the 95% unconscious/subconscious brain holds much of value when we try to improve our health. My other therapeutic tools and techniques eg EFT Tapping and much more, help you to access this information.

Question: Why would one fail to appreciate that the Organ, Mind, Brain connection is real, inter-related and therefore our emotional health impacts our physical health?

Call me to find out more Mobile: 07917 680967

Why doesn’t everyone have this problem? (chest infection)

Unresolved emotional trauma is fairly key to why you ‘suffer’ from this ailment. Other areas of your life also have input, generally to a lesser degree. Your best friend, partner, work colleague have their own health stuff affecting them. Your body is a very intelligent organ. You are unique. Your body can self-heal. Medicines help to mask, alleviate and seem to clear the symptoms. But chronic conditions and pain e.g. Back Pain are a recurrence of a same ailment. The medicine does not address WHY you have this ailment. LPHC are trained to know how to help you find many answers so that you can have an active part in your healing journey.

Top Tips:

All manageable and required when working with a Lifestyle Prescriptions® Health Coach. or Emotional Healing Practitioner.

Keep a little diary and note down date and health symptom (illness, pain, disease).eg. chest problem 12th Nov. 2019. And briefest of details regarding severity.
What was (but not any more!) going on recently; last week, last month which was stressful?
I always suggest long and slow deep breathes if a bit of panic creeps in when super stressed: 5 seconds in, 6 or 7 seconds out. Difficult with a chest infection.But if panic creeps in, calming and strong focus is required.
Choose a little Mantra and breathe it in gently, night and morning. e.g. I can manage my anxiety, this too will pass.

Very important key point: Little 1% improvements make for big change in 90 days. Big sudden change is seldom successful.

It’s time to take action now if you are committed to:

feeling empowered to make certain that little sustainable changes count
appreciating which bigger changes then become possible
being held accountable for your actions in relation to set goals
facing fears and clearing negative self-talk
managing procrastination
optimizing physical and/or emotional health

Please check out my new 4 Week Health and Lifestyle Coaching Programme. It’s new and being piloted.

Please call me now, for a chat. Mobile: 07917 680967

Email: susan@hampshire-eft.co.uk

Susan is the author of ‘Survive and Thrive after Trauma‘

A specialist area: relationship and divorce problems

Women 50+ struggling with stress