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Healing Health Holistically

Susan Cowe Miller
Healing Health Holistically. Release and relieve effects of stress and trauma from mind and body.
Call Susan: 07917 680967

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My pregnancy journey, and have times changed?

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If you require procedures to help achieve pregnancy, you need to give it your best effort and be strong physically and emotionally. An organ, mind, brain experience.
In the summer of 1984, after my Ectopic Pregnancy my 1st husband and I realized that getting pregnant was not a given. 

We were living in Doha, Qatar, earning the big bucks and life was good.  We both wanted to know what the prognosis was regarding having children, and what we might decide if the prognosis was less than positive.

I did not want to spend the next 10 years waiting every month, to see if……

We had had the discussions together.
Would we consider adopting if I could not conceive?
Would we look into artificial insemination; test tube babies?
Would we make other plans to look at life through different eyes?

This is a situation which tests relationships.
We were not yet tested but wanted to find out possibilities.
I researched to find some answers. Who could help us? Not that easy in those days.
(Keeping in touch with family was by letter, maybe a couple of times a month).

Now, this was the infancy of Test Tube babies.
The days when Dr Robert Winston, Hammersmith Hospital and Prof. Ian Craft at Cromwell Hospital in London, were part of the forefront of In-Vitro Fertilizations (IVF).
I wrote to them and got a warmer response from Ian Craft establishment, so I asked for the exploratory operation.

Our Contract in Doha gave us one month’s holiday. We had 2 weeks in Greece and did the exploratory procedures in London afterwards.

I must add that when we walked into the Cromwell Hospital it was an opulent place. Full of many people from all over the world, The Commonwealth.
The money machines were a plenty and it was amazing and strange at the same time.

The treatment I received, and the Laparoscopy were seamless, professional, and highly valuable.
Dr Craft who performed my procedure explained to me that my tubes were viable, thanks to the excellent work of my Specialist in Doha.
My Doha Consultant was Dr Mustafa Kleida (to whom I am deeply grateful). A Sudanese man who trained at Hammersmith Hospital. The ectopic pregnancy operation had been carried out in the original Doha Women’s Hospital.
Dr Kleida saved my right tube. 
I was in intensive care for several days after the operation.
I had a dead cockroach under my bed.
I say this because there are other stories I could add which might seem to undermine the excellent care I received.
All would be narrow minded and not of value.

Here is some useful detail.
Dr. Craft asked me if I had ever had a miscarriage or an abortion because he said that my cervix looked to be potentially, compromised.
That can lead to miscarriage; the loss of a baby at around twenty weeks.

I was unaware of experiencing an early miscarriage and had not had an abortion.

We left the Cromwell Hospital with positive and useful information.
We conceived our son 3 or 4 months later.
In the world of energy healing: the pressure was off, there was a relaxation, feelings of hope.
We were not living in dread or disappointment.
Our daughter arrived 22 months later.
The Organ, Mind, Brain connection; the whole body working together is an amazing piece of work.

Here are some facts relating to the success rate of IVF.
In the early ‘80s, Test Tube Babies was the phrase used back in the day.
Infertility is a big business, and it involves a big monetary investment.
Undergoing Fertility treatment of this kind is a big deal, with a huge emotional rollercoaster journey being undertaken.
The percentage success rate of IVF in the 1980s was at best I believe,25%, probably 20%. to 25%.

The Guardian in 2020, “In 2018, the average birth rate per embryo transferred for all IVF patients was 23% – but was 31% for under-35s, compared with less than 5% for patients 43 and above when using their own eggs.

Key Point: The success rate of (IVF) has not improved a great deal in over about 40 years.
So, it is worthwhile to undertake this big life adventure in a holistic manner.

Your body and your emotional stability need to be ready, so that you are in a confident, realistic and nurturing place.
This is a big deal for those undergoing this exceptional procedure.
There is a whole lot involved.
All the stress and expectations of

  • Dealing with the normal daily ups and downs of life.
  • Feeling vulnerable because emotions are all over the place.
  • Considering failure or blocking that possibility.

And there are 2 people involved in all of this, so relationship support, trust and love are essential too.

Perspective is required. If you are not in flow, and running undercurrents of anxiety and fear, then your body is not at its best and offering its most welcoming environment to achieve the successful outcome.

That is why your emotional health is equally important alongside all the wonderful procedures given to you by the ‘godlike people’, who can seem to offer you your heart’s desire.
You can empower and enable your body and your emotional strength to be a nurturing space, primed so that you are giving this procedure the best opportunity for success.

So, it is important to sort out stress, manage fears of potential  failure, so that you can live the best life afterwards regardless of the outcome.
And that’s why you  need to book a chat with me.
Find out how I can help you to be emotionally and physically ready, if IVF or (IUI) is being considered or going ahead.

A Fertility related Testimonial: Read
Reproductive Health Recovery offer: spaces available.

Call, DM, email: susan@hampshire-eft.co.uk. 

EFT Training Package

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I share 4 EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques) Tapping lessons, aimed at beginners.
Here they are, and if you know someone who may benefit, please pass them on.



EFT Lesson One: The Tapping Points

VIDEO 1: EFT Tapping Points and a routine

EFT Lesson Two: Tapping on an annoyance or irritation

VIDEO 2: Tapping on an annoyance or irritation

EFT Lesson Three: When life presents fear or anxiety

VIDEO 3 When life presents fear or anxiety

EFT Lesson Four: EFT Tapping and chronic health symptoms

VIDEO 4: EFT and chronic health symptoms

I know how important Tapping is for my clients.
Emotional and physical health problems benefit from the use of self-help tools, or to have practitioner support to manage, lessen or clear stressors.

EFT, (Emotional Freedom Techniques) Tapping is an excellent skill to be added to your self-help tool kit .

Susan

Intrauterine Insemination Fertility testimonial

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I am thrilled to receive this client testimonial highlighting my work with Infertility and Reproductive Health.
My client is undergoing Intrauterine Insemination (IUI) fertility treatment. In vitro fertilisation (IVF) is now a possibility.
My client shares insight into their personal journey.

“..struggling to manage anxiety, and the lack of control and medicalization of it all, I started looking for things I could do to help myself.”

The testimonial:

Three years ago, just after we got engaged, my husband began some chemotherapy to treat a brain tumour he had for a few years. We were vaguely aware that the treatment may impact his fertility but that seemed like a long way off and our priority was his health. He froze some sperm “just in case” and we went on with finishing the treatment, our wedding and then a planned move to America for new a new job and adventure in the states.

Two years later when we were both 33 we started thinking about beginning a family. Now based in Wisconsin we decided to get his sperm tested “just in case”. After two days the notification of “new results” popped up on his phone, we were in the car and pulled over to take a look at the results. Azoospermia. Neither of us knew what that meant but a quick google was very clear – no sperm at all had returned after the radiotherapy and chemo, we were always told this was very unlikely to happen but we now knew that it had.

Although this wasn’t the result we expected we felt very lucky to have options. We began the process of shipping the sperm from the UK to Wisconsin, which took about 6 months with COVID-19 closing down fertility clinics in London and the US. Once the sperm arrived we began exploring treatment options, with our age and considering costs we decided to start with IUI (Intrauterine insemination) where I would take medications each month and go in at the right time for a doctor to do the insemination.

What had been a process for both of us soon felt like a lot of pressure on me. I had multiple tests, a pretty painful procedure to check if my tubes were open and then it all began. I was told my ovaries were “older than they should be.” Each month I had to take medication, go in for a scan to see how many follicles were there and then if all looked good the IUI could go ahead.

After two failed cycles and struggling to manage my anxiety and the lack of control and medicalization of it all I started looking for things I could do to help myself.

Susan and Hampshire EFT came up in my search and I liked the ethos of the treatment and Susan’s personal experience of some of the fertility issues I was looking to address. I didn’t really know what to expect but went in with an open mind and I was fascinated by how quickly Susan was able to work with me to find my blockers and release the fear and anxiety I had unknowingly kept inside.

Worries of “will it work this time?” “maybe I am not doing enough to help the process” “maybe I am not ready / good enough to be a mother”, “what if I end up being a mother on my own”, and even feeling like I was letting people and myself down by failing to get pregnant with 2 cycles.

Over our 5 sessions I learnt to undo the fear, become more positive and most importantly feel calmer and be kinder to myself.

To say my worries out loud and learn how to quieten them and tap through the process gave me tools I can use myself for my fertility journey and for other areas in my life too. Journaling is a habit I wish I’d started earlier and has already become part of my routine.

Going into my third cycle I still feel a little worried but I now know that I can take a few minutes to relax and go through the steps Susan taught me each day to feel as ready as I can. I don’t know what the next treatment will hold and if we will be successful but for the first time I know there is nothing more I can do to make this happen. And that feels like an enormous weight lifted.
Emma.

I have space available on my Reproductive Health Recovery offer.
Please email : susan@hampshire-eft.co.uk , or call: +447917680967, if you wish to find out how I can be of service.

Living with Bulimia for 40 years

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I am not being dramatic when I say that Susan has saved my life….  nobody in my life knew how much I was struggling with an eating disorder and had been for nearly 40 years!!!

Over the years I had tried different types of therapy, some worked for a short time but unfortunately the Bulimia always crept back into my life and literally took over.  I purged every day and some days I purged morning to night, I felt completely disgusted with myself and I knew I had to do something about it.  I was extremely lucky that it didn’t affect my health apart from leaving me completely exhausted at the end of each day and consumed by the thoughts of food!  I was completely addicted to bingeing on food and then making myself sick.

I am not sure how I found Susan, I think it was a Facebook Post, I had a look round her website and read about her Healthy Lifestyle Coaching Programme, I took the plunge and messaged her.  She came back to me almost immediately and we arranged a phone call and I can honestly say she has helped me to completely change my life.


My sessions with Susan have provided me with the tools I needed to begin my climb, it has not been easy and with Susan’s coaching, support, encouragement over the past 9 months I am climbing that mountain, not sure I have reached the very top yet but I do feel I have the strength to do it.
My relationship with food has completely changed and I feel healthy, happy, energised and looking forward to what the future brings.


 After 40 years of living with an eating disorder my life, a horrible hidden secret! My life now has finally turned around.  Susan has helped me focus on myself and take control of my life and I am so much better, a better wife, a better mum, a happy, grateful person who no longer has a dark secret following me.

I truly can’t recommend Susan enough – if you are  struggling then please pick up the phone or message Susan, don’t leave it as long as I did, we all deserve to live the life we love and I realise now that counselling is a very good place to start on the road to a better life.
E.S. – living with bulimia for 40 years!!

My Healthy Lifestyle Programme

Reproductive Health: Lichen Schlerosus

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Lichen sclerosus condition in dormant phase:

Around 1997 my doctor diagnosed me with a skin condition called Lichen sclerosus.

Lichen sclerosus is a skin condition that causes itchy white patches on the genitals or other parts of the body. There’s no cure, but treatment can help relieve the symptoms.

And the reason for Lichen sclerosus is… unknown.


In active/regeneration phase:

Inflammation, skin breakdown with all that can involve.

In my case my symptoms became active about 18 years later.

Lichen sclerosus is a chronic condition, and chronic ailments flair when a stress trigger is in play.
Pre-pubescent girls and post-menopausal women are the main groups affected.
I cannot give any comment regarding pre-pubescent girls, or from the LGBT community. Colleagues may offer information.

However, it is not purely a female problem, but much is written from the female perspective.

Although treatment can help, skin affected by lichen sclerosus can sometimes become scarred and tight over time. This can cause discomfort when peeing, pooing, having sex or getting an erection. If it’s severe, you might need a small operation.

NHS

Important: Cancer: Lichen sclerosus increases your risk of getting cancer on your vulva or penis.

How skin symptoms present:

There are two layers of skin; epidermis and dermis; a skin related blocked emotional trauma is held at cellular level.

The two skin layers have separate root cause stories; the subtleties of Loss of Touch, Protection or Defilement.
The precise part of the body affected has more specific trigger information attached to it.
If you have this debilitating symptom, I do not suggest you try to think your answers to WHY.

Medical treatment to manage symptoms:

Strong steroid cream used under direction from Doctor/Consultant. But that becomes detrimental in long term use.

My situation.

I remember the time,1997 when I was diagnosed.
I had just gone through a traumatic personal challenge, and looking back, I can pinpoint the potential root cause start to this problem.
And the active/regeneration phase 18 years later, when I became aware of change, had a specific and relevant emotional challenge connection.

You may ask:

  • How do I find out “Why ME?”
  • “Will I be able to reduce these symptoms?”

Here’s what to do:

Keep a record of flare ups in a little booklet; date and note particular symptom. eg Skin breakdown, itch, pain.
Seeing a pattern of stress, and the stress situation eventually resolved, is the first step to easing this problem.
A doctor will ask you how long you’ve had the problem, what symptoms are. Have that information to hand.

Why do you have this health problem?

Now it gets interesting. I work with the innate knowledge you hold subconsciously; the Body, Mind Connection to your presenting symptom.

How do I help you?

That’s when I ask you a short series of questions which take you to the Root Cause, the Why you present this symptom.
With guidance and support you release the emotive stress trigger, so that healing can begin.
The strong symptoms will reduce and you can go about your life without fear of vile bursts of pain, panic around sex or feeling less than the person you want to be.

If you seek to improve and potentially clear your symptoms, message me now to book a Root Cause Analysis.

Places also available on my Reproductive Health Recovery offering. 

Or just call for a chat to find out a little bit more.

Polycystic Ovaries, Polycystic Ovary Syndrome

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The 3 symptoms, Ovarian Cysts, Polycystic Ovaries (PCO) Polycystic Ovary Syndrome PCOS, appear similar, but are not the same.
The information quoted comes from reliable online sources.

Quote: Many women have Ovarian Cysts at some point in their life. Most ovarian cysts present little or no discomfort and are harmless. The majority disappear without treatment within a few months.

Quote: The difference between Polycystic Ovaries and Ovarian Cysts is that polycystic ovaries result in substantial hormonal imbalance,  compared to ‘harmless’ ovarian cysts.
It is possible for women to have multiple ovarian cysts without suffering from PolyCystic Ovary Syndrome.
PCOS symptoms will usually present during teenage years.
Quote: Polycystic Ovary Syndrome: In order for a woman to be diagnosed with PCOS, she needs to have at least two of the following three features:

  • Irregular or lack of periods
  • High levels of male hormones
  • Polycystic ovaries, i.e. where ovaries are enlarged and contain several fluid-filled sacs (follicles)

Th exact cause of PCOS is unknown, but it can be a hereditary trait and related to abnormal hormone levels, including high levels of insulin. Although PCOS has no known cure, the symptoms of PCOS can be treated. Medication prescribed to treat symptoms such as irregular periods, infertility, excessive hair growth.

Those with PCOS with whom I have spoken or given questionnaires, were told by medical practitioners or after medical tests, that they have this health symptom.
The following comments are PCOS related and come from young women I interviewed and/or worked with.

“I started my period when I was 14 and they were irregular from the start – I could go months without one”.

“I was advised to go onto the pill.  I wasn’t even sexually active at that time but my main issue was the irregular periods and so this fixed that as well as regulating my hormones.  I was also offered some diabetes drug to sort out the insulin issue but I declined”.

“I thought I was a freak and felt very embarrassed by it”.

“The only thing I’ve ever blamed PCOS for was the difficulty to conceive.”

PCO related

“I had been on the Pill for years. After coming off the Pill I conceived straight away. My diagnosis of PCO came when trying for our 2nd child.”

PCOS is more complex, more going on.
PCO can be explored more straightforwardly.
Here is a link to read more : PCOS v PCO

As a Lifestyle Prescriptions® Health Coach, I offer a client insight and release from e.g. chronic health complaint. I assist clients to find and clear the Root Cause of the symptom.
I look at each client symptom separately. Together we unravel the WHY: the reason why this has presented. The reason which often leave doctors unable to state.

Lifestyle Prescriptions and Root Cause
You will probably have asked your medical doctor on occasion,
“Why do I have got this going on again?”
The doctor may say that they cannot be specific. They offer medicine and treatments, referral and so on.
I suggest that you hold many answers to the WHY. The medical route can still be investigated and followed, but it is within your power for your health symptom to not return.
Release the root cause.

Here’s what is going on
Stress, Beliefs, Emotions, Lifestyle and Social aspects play their part in your health problem, but Stress plays the very large part.There is a pattern of behaviour at work.  For self-healing to be initiated naturally, effectively and efficiently, this is what needs to happen:

  • Find the root cause to the health symptom.
  • Use the innate knowledge the client holds, relating to Stress, Emotions, Beliefs etc to unravel that root cause.
  • Work with specific modalities to release what no longer serves.

I help clients to pinpoint why and how a chronic reproductive or intimate health symptom impacts life and work.
 
The process is the same for most physical health symptoms.
I will help you to investigate and potentially fix this problem so that you can be free from the symptom and empowered to live life more fully.

Please contact me for a free chat if you find this article useful.
This works for any physical symptom; please ask.
(genetic health problems are not covered in this article).

Email: susan@hampshire-eft.co.uk   Or DM.
My website: Hampshire-EFT.co.uk
(I now have more availability on my Reproductive Health Recovery).