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High achievers and anxiety:Women 50+

July 13, 2020 by susan

High achievers and anxiety :Women 50+

High achievers are not immune to feelings of anxiety. Are you an award-winning entrepreneur, an ambitious and driven executive, a successful business owner? Many will see you as an achiever and if you are a women in this exciting stage of life, I wish to ask:
Does your success sit well with you and are you enjoying life in this prestigious position? Or are you aware that success can also come at a price’? Are you living the life you planned for?

You may share a sense of disappointment which is felt potentially by other entrepreneurs and those self-employed. You delight in your success and cope well with responsibility, but disappointment sits in the background because the life you have built does not allow time to live the pleasurable opportunities available.

Do you ever sense that those you love the most do not understand you and do not share the same excitement in your achievements?
Do you feel alone, unsupported? You have success, achieved so many amazing things but all for what?

What these disappointments have in common is that you are not immune to the strong negative feelings of stress and anxiety. You may consider:

When can I live the plans and dreams, I made for this stage of my life?
My children hardly know me
My marriage is floundering
Insidiously you sense that life is passing by.
Menopause is probably playing a part in those darker thoughts and your roller coaster state of mind is not helping.
You may think that

Eating habits could be improved
Exercise should be increased
Meditation techniques could be learned

But no action is being taken, there’s just not enough time! But you ARE aware that you feel dissatisfied and that there seems to be a wedge sitting between what can be possible, and achieving it! You are not living the dream; not living what you have worked hard for.
Imagine a hamster wheel going faster and faster. If you are not living a life offering contentment you are unable to make space for gratitude, peace, pleasures. Perhaps the drug of success or the haze of not quite achieving reverberate continuously. Overwhelm kicks in.
Some scenarios:

Your physical health begins to let you down or dramatically challenges you
A divorce is on the cards or an affair seems like a good idea
There is no time to find that new relationship

If you crave more order, more time, more peace, rest assured that you are not alone.
So many of us can be:

High achieving yet dissatisfied
Award winning but unfulfilled
Unable to offer kindness to Self

And what has really happened?
Life has happened and it has diminished abundance of joy, flow and life balance. It has left no time to do the little things which mean such a lot. Little things like spending more time with your partner, your big or little children, the simple things of life.
I believe this to be true:
When we reach the more mature years we begin to realise that what we thought mattered, doesn’t matter half as much as peace of mind, feeling a need to be wanted and having the time to make good choices.

I can help you to

Manage your time better so that you can live the life you want
Feel worthy of your success so that you can choose to live the life you want
Deserve love and choose to make time for those you do love

Did one or all resonate? Did you feel the reaction somewhere in your body?
A brief example: the body does not lie and when you feel a strong emotion of eg. anger, helplessness, fear, sadness, you can sense that feeling in an area of your body.
We are all different. The Mind, Body Connection is real and when I ask where you feel your anger, you focus and perhaps reply; in my head. But someone else may reply; in my shoulders or chest. We are not robots; we are each unique. There is not one rule or expectation for all. The actual physical symptoms of stress can be digestive problems, heart concerns, headaches, muscle and back issues, skin problems.

That is why if you work 1-1 with me we identify and clear the trigger(s) which cause the heightened anxiety. Once the problem is identified, given focus and the expected goals of wellness and clarity are achieved, then physical health and relationships benefit as the resulting ripple effect encompasses life around you.

I have a membership group which launches very soon.

I am planning a ‘Live the Life You Want Club’ for like minded women 50+ who feel stressed and anxious and believe that life is passing by. A community for potential sisterhood where life experiences and insight may be shared. I will be offering self-development opportunities where we focus, identify, achieve and maintain goals. I will share my emotional healing expertise, EFT Tapping and Lifestyle Prescriptions Health Coaching skills, Q&A, Zoom and Speakers, Mindset tweaks and Meditation.

Check out my freebies

Request my MP3 where I share much around EFT
Top Tips, Tapping routine and Tapping Points pdf
Download the ebook: The 6 Root Causes to a Health Symptom

If you are ready to make little changes so that you can live the life you want with balance and flow, rather than with resentment and disappointment, I invite you to contact me for more information. The Mind, Body connection between our emotional and physical health is real and when you understand the link a little better, you will feel emotionally stronger and physically healthier.

Please email: susan@hampshire-eft.co.uk

Susan is the author of: Survive and Thrive after Trauma

Call Susan for a 20 minute chat: M:07917 680967

Women 50+ struggling with stress

June 29, 2020 by susan

Today’s focus: Are you a mother whose children are grown up, have left home and you don’t feel needed anymore?

For many women this is the time of life when you may have planned to live dreams, go on new adventures, take up a hobby , change direction professionally.But the best laid plans can become lost or forgotten.

Stress triggers in women 50+ is a subject often discussed and can be fraught with anxiety for several reasons. Feelings of sadness and loss as children become more independent or leave home can be painfully real. The empty nest syndrome is potentially a major stress trigger for parents and arguably more women can struggle with this problem.

Our emotional health affects our physical health

May 26, 2020 by susan

Without question our emotional health affects our physical health. Stress will cause physical health to be compromised, challenged, weakened.

What happens to your body when a stressor is released or ended?

All things Divorce related are difficult to say the least. Please be aware that when the divorce stress is lessened, somehow it appears that your physical health is becoming challenging, then self-healing can be a major factor in recovery.

Do not doubt this; you can help yourself. I offer support with my Lifestyle Prescriptions® Health Coaching , EFT Tapping and my Healthy Lifestyles, Healthy Eating 4 week Programme.

My message

Whilst on holiday last year and after returning from a long walk across the sand dunes in Cornwall, I rested and caught up with my Lifestyle Prescriptions® Health Coaching class, which I missed ‘Live’. I love it. I have tools and techniques to move clients to a place of real emotional and physical healing.
For those who have tried everything else with no results, now is the time to be stunned by all you can achieve when you access your own stored information. That’s the good stuff hiding away in your 95% subconscious brain. I help you access that information and together we help you be, and feel, better.

Fears which dominate are in your 5% conscious brain

Self-healing empowers and offers a release from continual medication, but

perhaps you may be fearful because you need your required medication
you’re fearful because your medication is no longer so effective (chronic symptoms can reduce the power /effectiveness of medicines)
But at a self-healing level you can work alongside, (or not) and can still gain from all the modern marvels.

Subconscious and Conscious Brain

At a conscious level we are only working with 5% of our brain so all our decisions and thinking are made using that 5% . And that 5% holds our beliefs and the information which jumps to the front when we try to make what we THINK are good decisions.

Key Point

Your physical health may deteriorate briefly or longterm and that will surprise you BECAUSE, you probaly THINK that the stress is over so why should you be feeling so physically ill, run down, low.

Your intelligent body goes into Regeneration when a stress is resolved, over, lessened and the body takes an opportunity to heal, to become strong. And that is when you have the unwanted and undesirable health symptoms, illness, major or minor. It is the body rebalancing and outwith your conscious control.

What I offer

I help you to reduce and clear the Root Cause of a health symptom, chronic illness and pain, without continual medication.

I help you access the information you hold, because you can never think it out. And then the work begins to clear the energy around that Stress Trigger/Root Cause. The symptom can be gone, chronic or otherwise.

My new Healthy Lifestyle, Healthy Eating programme is proving very successful; a joyous feeling for me.

I also offer a 20 minute Root Cause Analysis session for your specific symptom. After that you hold the answers. I can facilitate your journey. Committed client work is required. M: 07917680967

The downloadable book, ‘The 6 Root Causes of Health Symptoms’ contains more information and can be found within this link: Lifestyle Prescriptions University.

Susan is the author of Survive and Thrive after Trauma.

Has your sex life changed during Lockdown?

May 14, 2020 by susan Leave a Comment

So, I was in the garden planting up this morning and thoughts popped into my head. One thought led to this Post and I have some questions.

I am posting to highlight a subject which I suspect is quietly questioned by women, and thought about more often by men: Sex.

The main question to ponder is: During Lockdown if you are living with a long term partner, or a relatively new partner, has your sex life changed for the better or for the worse?

I do not offer answers this Post offers is an opportunity for consideration. Has your sex life improved or is there room for discussion with your partner?

Points for consideration during this time of Lockdown

Are you having more or less sex?
Different sex or more meaningful sex?
Do you talk about your sex life with each other?
Has an increased sex life brought you closer to your partner?
Because it’s been so long since the sex subject was discussed or initiated, does your lack of a sex life cause you stress?
Do you dread the silent hints from your partner when there is pressure for more sex?
Has sex been initiated by both of you or is it a one way initiation; one partner just complies?
Has lack of sex been something that does not cause any concern?
Perhaps your sex life is just fine thank you!
Are you worried or embarrassed to discuss sex? See Why You Won’t Talk About Sexual Issues With Your Partner

For those working as normal during Lockdown maybe all is well. Nothing has changed, you’re not looking for change. Or perhaps this post may highlight where change could be made.

If you are

In a convenient relationship and sex plays no part
In the unfortunate situation where your relationship has ended and you are awaiting a solution and sex plays no part
Divorced, single and looking for a relationship.
Then I address the sex topic within my Home Study Programme ‘It’s Time to Move On‘.

The points I have raised can offer thought, action or a just leave well alone response. The topic of sex is something we Brits are not known to discuss with ease.
No-one knows what goes on behind closed doors? But relationships are important.

Age is irrelevant and of course men and woman can have different biological needs and each will respond to the questions accordingly. But both parties deserve to be heard. It’s a two way deal. There will however be difficulty if there are unwritten or unspoken rules within a relationship.
In my opinion that can be unhealthy.

Key Point

Never assume your partner knows or remotely understands your silence, whatever the subject. It may work in your benefit to talk more.

Lockdown can be a timely opportunity to give this important part of your relationship some time, thought and energy. Are you content about the intimate part of your relationship?

Benefits

From a positive outlook sex in a relationship can be good for the soul. It can make you feel better, happier and more able to get through the day.
Have the conversation with your partner if you want change, whatever that is. Or, smile, enjoy the feeling of ease and added benefits you sense as a couple from Lockdown.

Relationships

Relationships need work, difficult topics can be addressed. Speak with your partner. Balance and equality are key.

Imbalance brings in the negative feelings of unfairness, “I can’t speak up, I’m frightened, I’ve waited too long to discuss it”.
It is never too long to initiate discussion if you place great value on your relationship and are aware that complacency is not useful long term.
Stress and anxiety can affect your sex life.

Thank you for reading.

If this Post has triggered feelings of self-doubt, low self-esteem. Please ring 07917 680967 for a free chat. You are important and relationships are important too.

Susan is the author of Survive and Thrive after Trauma

Susan works with Stress and Anxiety and the Why the body presents chronic health symptoms

Healthy Lifestyle, Healthy Eating Programme

April 7, 2020 by susan Leave a Comment

Healthy Lifestyle, Healthy Eating Programme

Four Sessions of 1-1 Coaching : 4 places available: sessions over Zoom.

My name is Susan (Cowe) Miller and I have 4 one to one places available on my Healthy Lifestyle, Healthy Eating Coaching Programme.

So! you are ready to address eating habits, work through troublesome emotions, feel physically healthier and emotionally stronger. The time is right.

Who do I wish to attract as clients?

Four people committed and eager to work with a specialist Coach to get the best out of life and all it offers. You know that being physically and emotionally stronger will also mean that you feel revitalised and confident.

Is that you?

I only work with 4 clients on this programme at one time.

Results you can expect:

To feel emotionally stronger; old negativity and stumbling blocks dealt with
To feel healthier at a physical level; a reduction and/or clearing of a chronic health symptom or chronic pain.

How and Why I can offer these results.: Working with cutting edge transformational tools which ease that vital change of mindset and attitude, results in physical health improving as your emotional health strengthens.

Added benefits:

A reduction and/or clearing of anxiety related emotions, endless negative mind chatter, unhelpful thoughts and an out of date belief system.
Goals set in place, easily maintained, instilling hope and confidence.
A clearing of an unresolved emotional hurt or physical health symptom: big or small.
Something once seen as a challenge now becomes an achievable goal.

How I deliver:

At the end of each session your recharged confidence and desire to follow my Lifestyle Prescriptions® mean that the goals we have set together are manageable, and not scary.

You do hold the answers; I facilitate the release of those answers.

I hold you accountable each week for your actions in achieving the small and prescriptive changes.

The tools and techniques used to facilitate change, help you manage and clear fears and procrastination. Doubts, anxieties, limiting beliefs can be left behind as new confidence can become the norm, ever enhancing a sense of empowerment and inner strength.

When: One hour a week, for 4 weeks.

Where: Online via Zoom, Skype or Messenger

What do I offer?

I offer my experience.

Practitioner of 10 years facilitating change in Emotional healing and Stress Management .
Lifestyle Prescriptions® Health Coach
Person Centred Counselling
EFT and Matrix ReImprinting Practitioner
Cutting edge transformative tools and techniques to facillitate Mindset change and to find the Root Cause of a negative belief or a physically challenging health symptom
My life learnings which led me to write ‘Survive and Thrive after Trauma‘.

Why take this opportunity?

The time is right

To commit to doing the work
You prefer guidance and structure to manage the little but powerfully effective changes

The cost: £299.

To find out more please:

Call me to book your place, or to find out more please call M: Mobile: 07917 680967

Email me: susan@hampshire-eft.co.uk

Read recommendations on my website www.hampshire-eft.co.uk , Facebook Business page.

I always ask my clients how they found me. The answer I have received 80% of the time is simple. They said they looked on The Web, and decided it was me who ticked many of the boxes.

I call them ‘My out of the blue clients’ and I am eternally grateful.

HeartMath Breathing: reduce panic attack and anxiety

December 8, 2019 by susan Leave a Comment

HeartMath breathing to reduce panic attacks

What is Heart Math Breathing?

It is a simple and beneficial technique to quell stressful feelings and to enhance calmness and wellbeing. [Read more…] about HeartMath Breathing: reduce panic attack and anxiety