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Susan Cowe Miller
Healing Health Holistically. Release and relieve effects of stress and trauma from mind and body.
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Survive and Thrive after Trauma

Light Bulb Moment- Emotional Healing.

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I am a paradox .
I can be extremely intuitive, or dogged with indecision.

But, several years ago I was proactive on an EFT/Matrix Reimprinting Advanced Tools Workshop: ’Working in the Light’.


I asked one of the leaders if I could be the guinea pig for one the class learnings.

I was ready to move on from limiting stressful memories but that required assistance.
I seemed unable to get out of my own way.

I needed clarity; I craved clarity.

He agreed to guide me through the process.

Read this magical experience where I intuitively transported myself to a place free from ANY self-sabotaging blocks.
https://hampshire-eft.co.uk/2023/02/20/survive-and-thrive-after-trauma/

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Listen to the audio link.

Susan Cowe Miller. EFT and Matrix Reimprinting practitioner. Lifestyle Prescriptions Health Coach.

Read this magical experience I had which gave me the opportunity to leave the past behind.

Survive and Thrive after Trauma

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“Him or me in the nuthouse, I chose for it not to be me.”

Susan

I wrote ‘Survive and Thrive After Trauma’ in 2012.
In my book I share what was going on in my life in 2003, and before.
I haven’t promoted S.A.T.A.T. for a while.
The link sits on my website.
I read my book again recently and was very pleased with my accomplishment.

Life’s Rich Tapestry.

Being stuck in the past, having strangle holds from the past are not good.

However, I still have to remind myself on occasion that I only have one go at living this life!

I invite you to read or listen to my Introduction to Survive and Thrive after Trauma.
Perhaps you, or someone you know can benefit from reading my book.

Available to purchase on Amazon.

Working in the Light: a healing experience

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A few days ago when listening to Mitra Vijay’s ‘ Crown Chakra’, meditation, I became aware that I had momentarily shifted into a powerful memory from perhaps 12 years ago. 

I had attended a Workshop in Brighton.
EFT was a main component and working with Energetic Light.

I asked one of the hosts to be a guinea pig during a class sharing demonstration.
I had an emotional trigger which I really wanted to work through.
I describe my experience in Chapter 10 of my book: Survive and Thrive after Trauma.

My experience that day was pretty much life changing. 

It was also blissful.
A strong word.

The understanding and realisations I made as I worked through massive emotional blocks were amazing, insightful, and helped me to move on from the major trauma I had lived through a few years earlier.

Why I have allowed the learnings from this experience to frequently slip over the years, I don’t really know.

I am an emotional healing therapist, and we are all a work in progress. Me too, I guess.

That day I embraced and surrendered to the whole therapeutic experience.
I received my message from beyond; a gift to help me over the subsequent years.

I have not written openly about this before, and I trust you will find Chapter 10 an interesting read should you purchase the book.
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If you have experienced a major emotional trauma, be it during childhood or more recently, this part of my story sheds light on the opportunity that you can move on.

There is nothing to be gained from holding on to your trauma.
The difficulty is recognising that you are doing so.

Secondary gains are often so deeply entrenched into your psyche that you have no idea that you are the one, holding yourself back.

Please contact me, M:07917680967, if you wish to address issues around emotional trauma.

Thank you Mitra Vijay.
Chapter 10: Working in the Light-A Healing Experience.

Chapter 10: Working in the Light

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Survive and Thrive after Trauma.
Chapter 10: Discovering EFT and Working in the Light.

by Susan Cowe Miller

Chapter 10 Discovering EFT and ‘Working in the Light’ taken from Survive and Thrive after Trauma.

‘When one door closes another door opens, but we so often look so long and so regretfully upon the closed door, that we do not see the ones which open for us.’ Alexander Graham Bell

‘Working in the Light’

During training in a Matrix Reimprinting Advanced Tools workshop I asked to be a guinea pig and to work with one of the trainers.

The lessons I learned I accept quite rationally. I only wish I had started working in the field of Energy Psychology much earlier in my life. However, I needed to be led into it. I find the work I do fascinating.

Ortal Peleg and Sasha Allenby were running this course. I worked with Ortal.

We started with EFT and some tapping to quieten down to tune in to one another.

The issue: My husband’s death. The part I’d only ever shared with a very few people: the sex before his death.

I was asked to take my issue to The Light; to a place of peace and clarity where lessons can be learned and better understood.

Where is that? It is where you want it to be. Some people find a place quickly, others take a little time.

I could not find a place of light or perhaps a place of peace.

There was too much mental interference: my thoughts

pictures, people were getting in the way.

Certainly not a clear place. I took it up into the sky – still not good enough – still too much interference.

I worked on it and took it up into the sky, into the vast universe, but still had difficulty in finding a clear space to acquire any learning. I suppose that shows the degree to which my subconscious was getting in my way. Someone may comment and tell me their thoughts, online. I write later about ‘Secondary Gain’. I fear I had some of those!

So I found myself going back to The Big Bang – the time when time began – a place free from all possible interference.

I had a fantastic few moments. I saw myself bouncing through time, no barriers One moment in one place, another moment, God knows where – a free spirit. From one part of the Universe to another – in a moment. Not a problem, not an issue.

The learning I chose to take was that I was not responsible for anything other than me. I was not responsible for his life or how he chose to live it. That had been his choice.

His life was his. I was a part of his life here on earth. His spirit in that body was finished. It was time for him to leave this terrestrial plane. Goodness knows why he came into his body and what his journey in this life was to learn. I realised that his time was over.

As for me, I realised I still had a life to lead. That satisfied me. His time was over. Mine wasn’t.

I wondered whether it was time to let go or hold on.

In my case I had had a good excuse to not let go completely. I had two children who I hope will be able to remember the good times.

When you are dealing with the grief, anger, or the unfairness of any trauma and you have children who are part of that scenario, then it is not unusual for lots of discussion, and reassurance to continue. Many conversations between the children and I took place. It is a constant reminder.

Time has to be an answer here. We were all horrified. In my case, the divorce was a death to me. I was closed emotionally so I seemed to be stunned by my husband’s death but not grief-stricken. I may also have been grateful on a subconscious level; I was most definitely stunned. In time I realised that it is the remembering of the good parts that is beneficial, cleansing and therapeutic.

I reflect on the fact that his time was up. I take comfort that his last moments here on earth perhaps left him with a feeling that he wasn’t so bad – so alone. He was not alone when he died and surely, that is most fortunate for me and our children. Goodness only knows! I choose to hold that belief and therefore it can help me continue with my journey.

The Sliding Doors scenario. He could have moved out, died alone. Plenty of room for guilt with that ending.

On the morning of his death, I received a letter from his lawyer asking if I would give him another six months to sort himself out (to dry out). Would I put everything on hold? In other words, give him another chance.

I pondered a little over this as you can imagine and what I believe is that I would have divorced him. I had had enough.

The Sliding Doors scenario again. I am 100% certain I would have received no peace for a considerable amount of time had he left and stayed in his unhappy state. I would now be different, possibly deeply troubled. I am eternally grateful that my children are wonderful, decent young people and I will leave it there.

The phrase let off the hook seems apt so I embrace that, say a thank you up to the Universe and enjoy the times when all is good. I ask you, Which door do you open?

It’s a no brainer surely. Do yourself a favour. The door you believe will lead to opportunity is the door to open.

If you are in that position, open the correct door. The Law of Attraction can then be helpful because you are attracting positive energy. If we feel, believe and know that we deserve good things, the choice is easy.

Being self-aware

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9 years ago, I wrote my book, “Survive and Thrive after Trauma“. The book I had to write. I knew my story inside out. I found it difficult to move away from the whole sorry episode.

I had already started my personal and professional Emotional Healing journey when I decided to write the book.
The book shares detail of an emotionally challenging, traumatic life-changing time.
It is a book of three parts:

1. Autobiographical.

2. Tools and techniques to help reduce stress related symptoms.

3. Golden nuggets from others, who shared what helped them on their journey to improved emotional health.

I am writing this Post to highlight Self-Awareness.My self-awareness was that I had to write my book. (I loved that experience; I was invigorated and eager).

Can you sense when Self-Sabotage is at play in your life? Most of us can be unaware that we run behaviours which do not serve.Then suddenly, a light bulb moment slaps you around and makes you take notice of something which offers no positive benefit.

If you become aware of any Self-Sabotaging traits, give yourself a High 5.
• Acknowledge that baby steps will change habits which hurt you emotionally.
Awareness in recognising self-sabotage is the1st step.

Equally

• Do you know that the low vibrational feelings of being in Victim Mode, believing that something is Not Fair, feelings of Rage, Injustice, Unforgiveness can only debilitate, and hold no positive value for you?On the Emotional Guidance Scale which I include in my book, being Unforgiving was at the bottom of the scale?
Totally debilitating, crippling. Being unforgiving does not serve, ever.It is a joy (Joy is top of the Emotional Scale) to forgive others, and more importantly, to forgive Yourself. It frees you.

Professional guidance is often required when we cannot get out of our own way.
If you are ready to work through troubled emotions, please DM or email: susan@hampshire-eft.co.uk for a free 20 minute chat.

A shift in perception- Survive and Thrive after Trauma

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Survive and Thrive after Trauma

In 2012 I wrote my book: Survive and Thrive after Trauma. Very recently I have become aware of quiet and regular interest; my book is being bought more frequently. I took this as a message from beyond and decided to re-read all of it. I realised that I felt a welcome and pleasurable shift in perception. I now have a sense of genuine pride and worthiness; a lessened default sense of fear and anger which usually felt present when I Marketed in the past. I had a renewed sense that I was always correct to write this book; the book which I knew would be potentially beneficial, useful and helpful to those carrying emotional scars.

So, Survive and Thrive after Trauma is a book of three parts:

  • My autobiographical end of a marriage; divorce, alcoholism, death.
  • Short descriptions of many healing modalities.
  • Others detailing what helped them through their journey of emotional trauma.

    • A sense of feeling uncomfortable

    I have always quietly promoted my book. Not in your face stuff. I would mention it occasionally at Networking; I would leave a copy for folks to flick through. But I always had a feeling of being uncomfortable around my promoting. It’s not exactly something that is light-hearted or safe; it’s rather the stuff of nightmares I expect. I no longer have this Angst sensation; the feeling which certainly stopped me from having a book launch.

    Why the angst?

    In my mind the understandable fears and anxieties around my two big children, and of course some reservation around my present husband Herb. He actually has been a wonderful help with the book and has never be anything less than encouraging. I am the one who had a Cringe Factor; a quiet sense of feeling uncomfortable about shouting my mouth off about this book that I had written.

    How I feel today

    However I reread the book recently and was quite flabbergasted because I thought:

    • This is good.
    • This is exactly what I was trying to achieve.
    • This is just the raw, honest, nothing missed out stuff which I seemed compelled to share.
    • This includes all the things I believed then and today which can help those carrying emotional scars.
    • I feel proud of my work; I did a bloody good job with this.
    • I am more relaxed about it.

    I do still hold onto a fear, a worry that I am causing my children angst but I am not one to shy away from tough stuff. Our life’s drama has been a topic of conversation between us for years. Quite frankly I often found it depressing because I seemed unable to be allowed to ignore it. I often felt confused about the role I was supposed to play with our children. However I have been completely blessed with my now grown up family. I have 2 grand children and can have visits to Australia courtesy of our two splendid young people. My love for them is of course unconditional.

    The three of us are all individuals and our psyche holds the key in how we process and live our lives. We have all dealt and are dealing with the anxieties imprinted on our soul. One child took some interest in the book; one child did not. If you have ever seen the film, A Bridge of Spies with Tom Hanks and Mark Rylance; there is one line I laughed out loud at when I heard it. It’s about worrying. Worrying is such a complete and utter waste of time, yet many of us live our lives worrying. We give it power and maybe have a sense that worrying maintains a position of seemingly great importance. What fools some of us are.

    A Work in Progress or Letting Go

    I have done a huge amount of self work over 15 years.  I have certainly not been a slave to it though. I am fascinated by the importance that Feelings and Emotions have on our body. When I was learning my levels of Counselling Skills around 2007, for such a long time I would say:

    ‘I don’t know what I feel but I know what I think.’ I now understand the difference.

    I am and always will be a work in progress; we all are. If we were perfect, life would be boring and we would die out, don’t you think?

    I believe I am much less angry. However I still have a default negative area in a need to fill my time; not brilliant at relaxing, doing nothing. I do run the emotional state of cramming much into my life. I expect that is because I know life can be cut short. Just being Mindful is useful! Just Letting Go is the ideal; difficult to truly achieve as we are always that work in progress.

    Key Point:

    We can all change; we can clear negative memories and negative habits by facing our little demons. It is very self-nourishing when we feel good about ourselves or something we have achieved.

What you can do

If you know someone who can benefit from reading my book please share the link  Survive and Thrive after Trauma, buy it for a friend or family member who is struggling emotionally.

Sometimes it is incredibly difficult to get out of one’s own way; it’s called Self-Sabotage. You can help someone close to you.  So what if they tell you to buggar off. A seed of interest may have got through to them.

EFT and Matrix ReImprinting

Time is of course a healer but the residue of emotional trauma is still held at cellular level in the body.  That cellular imprint is what can determine physical health problems both big and small.  EFT and Matrix ReImprinting are recocognised as impressive healing modalities, beneficial in helping the release of past trauma, negative blocks and negative beliefs. Much information is available on my website: Hampshire-EFT

My area of keen interest:  The Why of Physical Illness – How Emotional Trauma and Stress affects us directly e.g. recurring illness, chronic illness, life threatening disease and illness. Meta Health Analysis can inform us which direction to question a client. We then use EFT based treatment to aid the removal of dormant trauma; the root cause!

How I can Help You: I am an EFT, Matrix ReImprinting practitioner, a Reiki practitioner and have high levels of Counselling Skills. I intend fully developing and studying the Why we are ill path from a Meta Health perspective.

Call me. Let’s chat so you can find out more.   Mobile: 07917 680967

I am available to give Talks.