Divorce- When Calm, Clarity and Confidence are helpful

When emotionally driven to seek resolution, you’ve probably set your intention.

• Your justification may be high
• You won’t be manoeuvred from your chosen path
• There is fear that you will miss out on a proper settlement

An endless list when fighting for what you need, want, expect.

Notice the words: fight, won’t, fear, justification. These are negative words. They do not offer help for a positive solution.

I am responding to a LinkedIn discussion ‘Divorce myth No.2′  by Suzy Miller of the Alternative Divorce Directory.

Hindsight is a great thing. So let’s assume you don’t have hindsight at the moment, because, you are in the moment.

Clarity, Calm and Confidence can be your friend.

If you are fortunate to fund or just to experience expert opinion and help during your divorce, then  these experts may have advised emotional support too. So much of your future rides on decision making in the NOW.

Emotional clarity can be helped and achieved by some simple steps. I offer help and support when feelings of distress, overwhelm and anger are perhaps getting in the way of the vital decision making process. Fear may be enormous. But these fears are not acting for your better good. They are in the way; clouding judgement.

If you have the opportunity to maintain or discover calm during this stressful time, then you have the power to make valuable decisions. Decisions for YOU and then the others involved. Consider You first. On an aeroplane you know what you are told: a parent must place the oxygen mask on themselves first.

Here are 5 Top Tips when big decisions need to be made. They are simple and effective. For more information please go to Hampshire-EFT.