15 June 2011
My darling George, the cat, needed to be put to sleep today, and the pain of doing it was enormous. The vet was really lovely, and I am thankful.
I have always known that I allow, or would allow myself to cry for the death of a pet, but seem frozen over the death of a person. I know, or assume , when the floodgates open, for the death of a pet, that it is also the release of pent up ‘stuff’ relating to other losses.
However, I was desperately upset over George. He was my friend for 17 years. I could tell him I loved him, and he was easy to love. Humans need so much more time and effort.
Earlier today before I took him to the vet, I did actually ‘tap’ to lower my state of panic, and I have to say it worked. I did wonder if it was appropriate to do it as this was a natural state to be in, over what I intuitively knew ‘was the end for George’
(I also have to say, being honest and allowing laughs to come come in, because tragedy and laughter sometimes go together quite naturally,) I managed to play the worst game of golf in 2 years. It is the club championships and I was truly ‘all over the place. ‘ I did try the positive, ‘I will do this for George’ , but it didn’t work!
But the tapping earlier did lower, my almost forced, panic about , my cat.
How EFT can help.
It is my belief that EFT is an extremely effective tool for stress relief. For minor and fairly small anxieties, if you use and understand the basics of EFT, then I can state that it will give relief. I also believe that medium to large anxieties quite simply need a specialist practitioner.
In relation to reactions to grief, someone may become depressed. The grief may be ‘the straw that broke the camel’s back.’ Someone else may resort to feelings of anger. If grief is not able to be dealt with, dare I say, naturally, as a natural progression, then these other feelings may take hold.
Today I felt the need to tap on my sadness. I considered the fact that I had treated George well and had made intuitive decisions, which were correct. He had not suffered greatly, and I was grateful that I had been able to help him correctly. I was certainly not happy but somehow gratified.
Feelings of loss were still strong, and my neighbours who loved him too, brought a hosta to place over his ‘plot’.
I expect it to get better each day. I will miss him so much but I am assuming that I will be able to deal with his passing, in a sensible way. That does remain to be seen.
Message- EFT is effective for aspects of bereavement – the worry, the anxiety, the fear. Once anxieties are lowered, things can be dealt with.
I would not however try to tap on the pain – I think, and this is only an opinion, the pain is a natural feeling when an emotional loss is experienced. It needs time. But, obsessing, anxiety, nervousness, fear of loss- I think these can be ‘tapped’ on.
In time I am going to matrix a memory of my George, an actual memory which I will Reimprint more strongly , stealing the Christmas day turkey. I would like that to be my memory picture.