Hampshire EFT

Healing Health Holistically

Susan Cowe Miller
Healing Health Holistically. Release and relieve effects of stress and trauma from mind and body.
Call Susan: 07917 680967

Women50+

Midlife Women and life today

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Are you a Midlife woman seeking more sparkle in your life and willing to address the important issues which stifle and frustrate?

At the weekend I finally collared my husband to help me with a bit of gardening.

We have a very big garden and also an unwritten expectation that we will fulfill our individual gardening jobs.

However, there are times when I need his help, so I make sure he knows that.

And he’ll ask me when he needs my input.

That works for us.

Usually Herb deals with the heavier jobs, e.g. repairing fence panels, digging out impossible weeds and pruning hedges, whereas I grow the seedlings, plant them out and do the less strenuous maintenance.

Not everyone has this level of collaboration or cooperation with day to day tasks,
Some women are left to struggle on with chores themselves because their husbands refuse to help.

Other husbands will make a token effort but even after years of marriage can or will not do the task to their wife’s standards.
Many women have the feeling that their partner quietly ignores them, the tasks are left undone, and that eventually they will not be pestered again……

I have met plenty of midlife women, retired women who are utterly fed up with their husbands’ laziness, and since being retired their husbands seem to care even less, even when their wife is experiencing ill health and are still left to struggle alone.

In any relationship, be it with a partner, family, or friend someone may have the upper hand, someone is subservient, and plenty are fortunate to feel they have an equal standing.

The last 2 years have been a challenge for all but we have our freedoms restored, and the opportunity to live life fully.

Are you a Midlife woman struggling to enjoy the freedoms now back on offer after the limitations of the last 2 years?

I have 3 questions to ask you about life today

1.     Have you an adult child who returned to live at home, is still living with you, too comfortably, and it’s time for them to move out?

2.    Do you find yourself wanting to be more assertive with friends and family who make suggestions and assume that you will fall in with their idea?

3.    Do you struggle to be heard by your partner when you raise dissatisfaction about their level of contribution to the household chores or family responsibility, and it only ever seems to end in a row or with them storming off?

If you answered yes to any of these questions but you repeatedly find yourself frustrated with no idea how to resolve the issue and move forwards, then my:

MIDLIFE RELATIONSHIP RECOVERY WORKSHOP

helps you to:

  • Maintain a good relationship with your adult child as you manage the conversation to re-establish boundaries and expectations.
  • Find resolution to the key problems which make you feel uneasy and uncomfortable with your husband, friends or family now that restrictions are over.
  • Feel empowered, find your voice so that you are excited about future plans and confident that you will make the next years count.

The Introductory price is £27.
This increases to £35 one hour before the start of Workshop.
Date: 17 May, 09.45-11.30. Plus, Q&A.

Susan is the author of Survive and Thrive after Trauma
She is a Lifestyle Prescriptions Health Coach and EFT practitioner
Contact Susan: susan@hampshire-eft.co.uk

Midlife Relationship Recovery Workshop

Granny duties and Family relationships

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Granny duties and family relationships

Families may be scattered all around the world, certainly all around the country.

My daughter now has a little baby boy and lives in Sydney.

When I had my children, I lived 400 miles from their grandparents.

If you are a woman in Midlife and your children are grown up, you may have plans to spread your wings, see the world, catch up with stuff you’ve missed doing.

However, your big children may have other ideas

The great mother guilt trip will assert itself again because you may be considered as useful, essential, or just expected to take a key role with your grandchildren’s Care while the parents work.

This is a massive topic. 

Care and respect from all involved come high on the list of essentials when this subject is broached.

It is a moral and emotional nightmare for some, so a couple of questions:

1. Have you been pressured to look after your grandchildren and have less free time to use for pleasure or travel?

2.  Have you found it challenging to feel at ease with your decision around Granny duties?

If you answered YES to the questions, want to feel at peace with your decision, but have moments of angst then my:

MIDLIFE RELATIONSHIP RECOVERY WORKSHOP helps you to:

  • Feel confident to discuss this issue with your son or daughter on equal terms.
  • Plan how you play a part in your grandchildren’s life and live life to the full.
  •  Explore and feel at ease with your decisions.

The Introductory price is £27.
This increases to £35 one hour before start of Workshop.
Date: 17 May, 09.45-11.30. Plus Q&A.

Susan is the author of Survive and Thrive after Trauma
She is a Lifestyle Prescriptions Health Coach and EFT practitioner
Contact Susan: susan@hampshire-eft.co.uk

See link below for more details and how to buy.

Midlife Relationship Recovery Workshop

Midlife Relationships

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Midlife Relationship Recovery Workshop

Spring 2020 gave us beautiful weather.

I loved watching the small, lone plane which regularly flew over our home in southern Hampshire.

Otherwise, the sky seemed empty and was being given an opportunity to heal.

Going for walks, accepting that quiet and peacefulness were gifts to be gratefully received.

Many couples took the opportunity presented to them, spoke with their partner and appreciated the contentment that they have.

Two years have now passed.
Restrictions lifted.

You may feel differently.

Perhaps the time spent with your partner highlighted feelings of boredom, a need to live life more fully, a panic that you are missing out.

But you love your partner.

You have a keen bond and feel troubled because you don’t know how to realise any of your magical fantasies which keep bubbling up to the surface.

Dangerous thoughts.

You are not alone with feelings of frustrations.

You are in the huge majority.

You can plod along, never have the important conversations, somehow feel frightened to speak your truth.

And having these dangerously exciting thoughts, do not necessarily herald the end to a loving and successful relationship.

Rather they are an opportunity…………… for that reality check!

I offer 3 questions to ask yourself about living with your partner now that 2 years of restrictions are basically over.

1.    Do you want the relationship to continue?

2.    Do you believe that this relationship has much more to offer?

3.    Do you want to explore what needs to happen right now so that your relationship is re-ignited with love, appreciation and understanding?

If you answered yes to any of these questions but you repeatedly find yourself frustrated at your partner’s behaviour or attitude, with no idea how to resolve the issue and move forwards, then my WORKSHOP helps you to

  • Find resolution to the key problems which make you feel stifled and dissatisfied within this loving relationship
  • Find your voice to speak your truth confidently
  • Feel excited about your future and the plans and memories that you can make together

The Introductory price is £27.
This Increases to £35 one hour before Workshop begins.

Date: 17 May, 09.45-11.30. Plus Q&A.