Susan Cowe Miller
Healing Health Holistically. Release and relieve effects of stress and trauma from mind and body.
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A shift in perception- Survive and Thrive after Trauma

Survive and Thrive after Trauma

In 2012 I wrote my book: Survive and Thrive after Trauma. Very recently I have become aware of quiet and regular interest; my book is being bought more frequently. I took this as a message from beyond and decided to re-read all of it. I realised that I felt a welcome and pleasurable shift in perception. I now have a sense of genuine pride and worthiness; a lessened default sense of fear and anger which usually felt present when I Marketed in the past. I had a renewed sense that I was always correct to write this book; the book which I knew would be potentially beneficial, useful and helpful to those carrying emotional scars.

So, Survive and Thrive after Trauma is a book of three parts:

  • My autobiographical end of a marriage; divorce, alcoholism, death.
  • Short descriptions of many healing modalities.
  • Others detailing what helped them through their journey of emotional trauma.
  • A sense of feeling uncomfortable

    I have always quietly promoted my book. Not in your face stuff. I would mention it occasionally at Networking; I would leave a copy for folks to flick through. But I always had a feeling of being uncomfortable around my promoting. It’s not exactly something that is light-hearted or safe; it’s rather the stuff of nightmares I expect. I no longer have this Angst sensation; the feeling which certainly stopped me from having a book launch.

    Why the angst?

    In my mind the understandable fears and anxieties around my two big children, and of course some reservation around my present husband Herb. He actually has been a wonderful help with the book and has never be anything less than encouraging. I am the one who had a Cringe Factor; a quiet sense of feeling uncomfortable about shouting my mouth off about this book that I had written.

    How I feel today

    However I reread the book recently and was quite flabbergasted because I thought:

    • This is good.
    • This is exactly what I was trying to achieve.
    • This is just the raw, honest, nothing missed out stuff which I seemed compelled to share.
    • This includes all the things I believed then and today which can help those carrying emotional scars.
    • I feel proud of my work; I did a bloody good job with this.
    • I am more relaxed about it.

    I do still hold onto a fear, a worry that I am causing my children angst but I am not one to shy away from tough stuff. Our life’s drama has been a topic of conversation between us for years. Quite frankly I often found it depressing because I seemed unable to be allowed to ignore it. I often felt confused about the role I was supposed to play with our children. However I have been completely blessed with my now grown up family. I have 2 grand children and can have visits to Australia courtesy of our two splendid young people. My love for them is of course unconditional.

    The three of us are all individuals and our psyche holds the key in how we process and live our lives. We have all dealt and are dealing with the anxieties imprinted on our soul. One child took some interest in the book; one child did not. If you have ever seen the film, A Bridge of Spies with Tom Hanks and Mark Rylance; there is one line I laughed out loud at when I heard it. It’s about worrying. Worrying is such a complete and utter waste of time, yet many of us live our lives worrying. We give it power and maybe have a sense that worrying maintains a position of seemingly great importance. What fools some of us are.

    A Work in Progress or Letting Go

    I have done a huge amount of self work over 15 years.  I have certainly not been a slave to it though. I am fascinated by the importance that Feelings and Emotions have on our body. When I was learning my levels of Counselling Skills around 2007, for such a long time I would say:

    ‘I don’t know what I feel but I know what I think.’ I now understand the difference.

    I am and always will be a work in progress; we all are. If we were perfect, life would be boring and we would die out, don’t you think?

    I believe I am much less angry. However I still have a default negative area in a need to fill my time; not brilliant at relaxing, doing nothing. I do run the emotional state of cramming much into my life. I expect that is because I know life can be cut short. Just being Mindful is useful! Just Letting Go is the ideal; difficult to truly achieve as we are always that work in progress.

    Key Point:

    We can all change; we can clear negative memories and negative habits by facing our little demons. It is very self-nourishing when we feel good about ourselves or something we have achieved.

What you can do

If you know someone who can benefit from reading my book please share the link  Survive and Thrive after Trauma, buy it for a friend or family member who is struggling emotionally.

Sometimes it is incredibly difficult to get out of one’s own way; it’s called Self-Sabotage. You can help someone close to you.  So what if they tell you to buggar off. A seed of interest may have got through to them.

EFT and Matrix ReImprinting

Time is of course a healer but the residue of emotional trauma is still held at cellular level in the body.  That cellular imprint is what can determine physical health problems both big and small.  EFT and Matrix ReImprinting are recocognised as impressive healing modalities, beneficial in helping the release of past trauma, negative blocks and negative beliefs. Much information is available on my website: Hampshire-EFT

My area of keen interest:  The Why of Physical Illness – How Emotional Trauma and Stress affects us directly e.g. recurring illness, chronic illness, life threatening disease and illness. Meta Health Analysis can inform us which direction to question a client. We then use EFT based treatment to aid the removal of dormant trauma; the root cause!

How I can Help You: I am an EFT, Matrix ReImprinting practitioner, a Reiki practitioner and have high levels of Counselling Skills. I intend fully developing and studying the Why we are ill path from a Meta Health perspective.

Call me. Let’s chat so you can find out more.   Mobile: 07917 680967

I am available to give Talks.

Synchronicity, birth, death, the whole damned thing

Peace and forgiveness

The birth of my granddaughter and the synchroncity to a death emotionally challenged me a few weeks ago. It alerted me that I am still a work in progress. Joy of Joy for an Emotional Healing practitioner! Realisations, appreciations and acting instinctively have led to this post. I hope that you can benefit from my musing that life sends us opportunities to grow and learn, constantly. Isn’t that glorious?

We may appreciate that we are all a work in progress and need to revisit old wounds from time to time, as we clear the layers of hurt which define who we are.

Why write this?

I’ve taken some time with this post; for myriad reasons. Timing, my particular mood, my sense of well-being all would shape the Post. It is very personal and I needed to heed and be respectful of others. Anyway, here goes.

Words can have a profound effect on someone and you have absolutely no idea of the unique emotional response it can elicit.

This Post is about recognising our stuff.  I am an expert in certain areas of Emotional Healing so I can just about recognise my own stuff when it’s going on.  Recognising our own shit is key; we can either ignore it, acknowledge it or work through it.

Synchronicity played its part and a mother’s knee jerk reaction was a key player too.

I’m sharing my reaction to an old stress trigger. A fairly impressive emotional trauma can be blamed for my reaction, and the trigger did cause emotional and physical distress. It was intense and I was aware of its potentially damaging effect on me if I did not work my way through it. I thought I had done enough work to clear this past hurt.  You may think the same about your emotional baggage. That might sound flippant but…… that’s all it is- emotional baggage, video looping shit which self-sabotages in its attempt to protect us from ourselves.

Here’s what happened


Tree of life

This is fairly woo woo; I tend to keep a lot of my beliefs, understandings, appreciations quietly in the background. No more.

My 2nd grandchild was born

When I could not fail to acknowledge my sign, my message, my potential learning gift, my dilemma was do I share?  I knew that I should. I knew that I could, but this was very personal to my closest of family. I received some input, responses from trusted sources and have taken time and care to write sensitively.

My 2nd grandchild Isla was born on Tuesday the 6th of March; around 01.45 in the morning. Ideally this was not the date or time that I would have wished for the newest arrival to our family to be born. But the birth had been laboured over the previous 48 hours.

There were numerous obstacles in play with regards to the actual birth: the

  • supervision and leavings alone
  • no panic attitude
  • not an Emergency even though it was a booked Induction
  • QA Maternity wing being very busy and short-staffed (I believe)

All those anxiety draining scenarios were played out, then a fast stage two labour and Isla was born.

I certainly realised that I may run (moderate) control freak emotions because I felt hopeless and useless. On  Day 2 of the labour I eventually opened a bottle of wine earlier than may be acceptable but it helped  to ease the anxiety.


My granddaughter was born on the same date that my first husband suddenly died; the 6th of March. She was also born at 01.45 as near as dammit to the same time of his death which was around 01.30/01.45. Well, what to say?

24 hours before Isla’s birth my daughter who lives in Australia called me and she eventually said, ‘I wonder if the baby will be born on dad’s death anniversary?’

I balked at that. She said that perhaps he was intervening and wouldn’t it be nice if it happened that day?

I suggested we don’t talk about it because my thoughts were knee-jerk and I said that if her dad was wanting to be helpful  from beyond  then he would make sure that our son did not have to remember the birth of his daughter with the death of his father.

Key point 1: This was My Stuff

The labour was prolonged and the next morning I got a phone call. All was well and little Isla had been born on March 6th at 1.45am. Thank goodness. What a blooming relief. I kinda shrugged with regards to the date and was fine about it all. My reaction was a quietly resigned ‘’what will be, will be.’

Herb and I visited our new granddaughter after they were signed out from the hospital.  Gosh she was born before 2am and  had arrived home before 10am in the morning!

A lovely hour was spent with all grandparents, my son, daughter in law, Ava the big sister aged two and a half years and baby Isla.

The true catalyst to my upset and knee jerk reactions

My daughter lives in Australia. She posted something on Facebook later that night that knocked me for six.

It was a long and emotionally charged post about the birth of her new niece and the death of her father. It was the 15th Anniversary of his death and she was 15 when he died.  She talked about related Angel intervention and stuff like that and stated how very hard she still finds his death. It was a traumatic death which one way or another my son, daughter and I witnessed almost in its entirity; and the failed attempt to resuscitate.  I believe their father (and I) would have dearly wished that our teenage children had not been witness to any part this death.

So that was my trigger to react on reading her post.

  • Why had she written it?
  • What will her brother think?
  • What can I do about her raw and bleeding pain?

Fuck it  (1st husband) why do you still have such an effect? I thought I’d done enough work for you to fuck right off.  I huffed and puffed. Herb  my present husband read her Post and said that he could find nothing wrong, it was nicely said.  That comment actually penetrated quickly so I knew it was My Stuff. But I felt a bit sick. I was once again in Fight, Flight or Freeze. I think I was in Flight…...

Fight, Flight, Freeze: When our family trauma happened those 15 years I froze, blocked, may even have been relieved; it was complicated. I wrote a book about it . I later discovered wonderful therapies and treatments: EFT Tapping and other impressive Emotional Healing Tools all of which can help to release blocked emotional trauma from mind and body.  Meta Health related work is now important to me.  Basically our physical health is very strongly associated with our emotional health.

Once we find the UDIN: The Unexpected, Dramatic, Isolating and having No strategy moment, then we can work with EFT and Matrix ReImprinting to clear the charge held in the body which, in time or indeed in no time (think heart attack),  can affect our physical health.

How I truly felt

Reading my daughter’s post instantly triggered me into a Fear response- What can I do to help my daughter ease her raw pain, and help my son avoid emotional pain all over again?

Fear, anxiety, fucking hell, why did that have to happen, I felt exposed again, cross, worried and any bloody negative thing you can come up with.  Me who thought it was parked, ignored, cleared!  But my mothering instinct was in overdrive. Her pain allowed me to feel my pain. Over the last few years I have been more comfortable discussing all the good stuff about our previous family life. In 2012 I wrote in my book that the fact I had children meant that I could not ignore my, their, our stuff. My children are reminders. I was fairly cheesed of about that. I was supposed to rise above that. Isn’t that what a good mother would do?

My stuff. No-one else’s. Mine.

I was concerned about how my son might view this dual anniversary; control freak tendencies desperate to jump in and rescue probably. I was concerned, no, desperate that my daughter had such raw feelings. She’s literally just started a Diploma Course in Counselling to go with her Psychology degree. So one way or another she’ll have the delightful opportunity of working through any of her stuff which is quietly hiding and waiting for some action.

This response had put me in a state of flux, annoyance, self-criticism, and more than likely a bit of unconscious self-loathing too was added to the mix.  Folks this is all at a Sub conscious level and I am only analysing here about what was going on internally. I soon realised consciously that I could not control any of their reactions.

I’d never considered myself a serious control freak because I know, at a deep and intuitive level, that one cannot control anything. I am also aware that I cannot shift blame to anyone else either.

Key Point 2

I offer the message that you may try to become aware of your negative traits, reactions and responses to whatever situation.

Your response to stress is your response to stress!

You cannot blame anyone else to make it easier or more acceptable for you.  Should you become more aware and then choose to seek healing then you can make change and be blessed with positive progress.

What did I do?

This very strong reaction was short-lived but did put me into a stressed and anxious state. I was certainly able to recognise that I was upset.  I actually enjoy synchronicity, having a guardian angel to help guide me; somehow I always had an intuitive sense that I could ask for help from those passed on. When I visited my first husband’s grave shortly after his death in 2003 I told him very strongly that I needed a break and he was in charge of our 2 children for a while.

This present synchronicity shook me; goodness what if it is a real message for me, for us. A state of flux. Divine intervention or what? Anyway, I set up Swaps with my EFT/Matrix ReImprinting/Meta Health colleagues and friends. I accepted a generous offer of Counselling from a Networking friend. I released, talked and move forward .

Another synchronicity . A gem!

I had already arranged a Swap before Isla’s birth. The session was the day after the birth. We started the session by Bhavna congratulating me about my granddaughter’s birth. I responded happily but got straight into my very negative response at the synchronicity and message sent from beyond.

She said straight away that perhaps I could consider the timing as a message of love; an opportunity for wounds to heal and /or a time to sense a beautiful moving on. That was what I needed to hear. I needed someone to suggest a different response to get me out of the resentful feelings of the never ending legacy that a past trauma can hold.

My learning from that day’s Swap was ‘I only restrict myself’.

Some points to consider

I am being very self-critical and open because I know that there are countless folks out there who, because of their belief system, believe that things cannot change. That’s such nonsense. It is self- sabotage.  It is debilitating. It is self-destructive.  It is a one way ticket to uselessness.

I offer these alternative suggestions

  • The greatest thing one can do is forgive; that can move mountains.
  • Learn to love yourself.
  • Be healthier in mind, body and spirit by being open to possibilities.
  • Seek professional help to receive more good things that are out there, just waiting for you.
  • Treat yourself kindly.

What I know to be true

My life is rich and in flow but I am still capable of making my enjoyment of it tricky and difficult.

Why tricky and difficult? Well that’s where self-healing, self-kindness, a sense of deserving and being worthy are fairly constant works in progress. There is a relationship between an intuitive understanding, and the challenge when those understandings  require possible tweaks or additional insights.  Practitioner input or even a throw away comment from another can help to illuminate different possibilities.

So why bother with any of this emotional healing?

Your physical health relates strongly to emotional stress held in your body. The reasons why you react so directly with a particular illness and ailment correspond to that emotional negativity held in the body. The negative energy can be released; physical health can improve. A massive topic; fascinating and an opportunity for everyone to continue in this brave new world with confidence and good health.  (I have not read Brave New World by Aldous Huxley but I obviously have been drawn to it –right now).

My little granddaughter is a few weeks old now. She is a beautiful child.  And I am forever fascinated with all that life can bring, offer and teach us.


Susan Cowe Miller


I work with those interested in improving Emotional and Physical Health; it could be you. EFT, Matrix ReImprinting and other modalities help me to help you.

Call me for a 20 minute Consultation.Mobile: 07917 680967Mobile: 07917 680967

If you want a deeper read around Synchronicity here’s a Post about Jung  .

Brave New World: Aldous Huxley  Again drawn to quote title but have not read)

Why I do what I do- Holistic Healing Practitioner and Mentor

Survive and Thrive after Trauma

Hi,  I’m Susan Cowe Miller, Holistic Healing Practitioner and Mentor. I help people with stress and anxiety, facilitating a moving on from fairly heavy emotional trauma, which has a compounded effect on one’s physical health.

I want to share today why I got into this particular aspect of work. About 15 years ago, my life was very stressful, and three big life events slammed into my family setup. My children and I came out the other end of it; my husband sadly died.

I had a strong sense that the stress and anxiety I had gone through would have an effect on me at some point. I had no idea then, what effect it would have, but I had an intuitive understanding that the emotional distress would have consequences. I wasn’t going to come away without being touched by it at a fundamental level.

In time I discovered Reiki, and then EFT Tapping and Matrix Reimprinting. I now use these and my Counselling skills as my main modalities to help people move on from their emotional dramas. Because you know, there really is a huge amount of light at the end of the tunnel.

Life can be joyous, fulfilling, and we do not need to live in the past. We can brush it off by dealing with our demons. The best work I do is when I’m working with a client who is ready to address what’s been stopping them from moving on; a client who has an innate feeling that there is joy that life can offer. A client who is a little like me.

So if you want to find out a bit more, Susan Cowe Miller, .

There is light at the end of the tunnel, and there are ways to go about it.

I wrote a book about my experiences and my learnings: Survive and Thrive after Trauma.

If you want to check me out here’s the Video of this Posting: Why I do What I Do

Call for a quick chat to find out more Mobile: 07917 680967

Unblock a Core Belief with Matrix Reimprinting


This short Video My One Core Belief shares the benefits of unlocking the core belief which has potentially influenced many aspects in your life.

Sharon King, developer of Matrix Birth ReImprinting interviews Mary-Jane Sharratt. The interview offers an interesting explanation of what can happen when you discover your Inner programme. Continue reading

Breaking free from emotional trauma

I am a holistic practitioner facilitating and guiding you to a state of renewed confidence and an ever growing sense of deserving better. Break free from emotional trauma and be open to experiencing and living life’s joys, challenges and surprises. Plans and ambition can be fulfilled more readily.

Release Emotional Trauma

Release Emotional Trauma

I work with several tools and techniques which will help you to appreciate and believe that

  • life can be good once more.
  • confidence is boosted and blocks to success are released.
  • you don’t need to cart around excess emotional baggage.
  • Mind Chatter nonsense, limiting beliefs/patterns of behaviour can be gone.
  • a sense of freedom is there for the taking. Choose it!

I am an EFT and Matrix reImprinting practitioner, also a Reiki practitioner.

Blog posts to explain EFT and Matrix reImprinting:

The simplest cure to feel less stressed

Tapping routine: a quick fix to feel better

EFT aka Tapping to relieve feelings of stress and anxiety

Stressed or emotionally challenged: points to consider

Simple Matrix reImprinting fundamentals – How does M.R. differ from EFT?

Simple Matrix reImprinting fundamentals: Section Two – Role of M.R. practitioner /how many sessions?

Simple Matrix reImprinting fundamentals: Section Three – The reImprinting process.

Key Point

Having a true sense of deserving helps you to move on after big challenges whether physical or emotional. I have walked my own walk of Emotional Trauma and I have come out at the other side. Fundamentally I had a strong sense of deserving better. I may not have understood it at the time but I knew I deserved better.

Perhaps your belief system is compromised, perhaps subconsciously you have a sense of not deserving better.  I help you to develop a growing confidence by clearing a compromised belief system of old stories, ancestral beliefs and trapped memories so that you are free to move on.

I  am the author of Survive and Thrive after Trauma.

To find out more I offer a Free telephone call.

Please call today 

Mobile: 07917 680967

Please note: I am revamping my website, however I wish new and fresh information to be available for viewing.

The Tartan Tapper’s Thoughts

A little piece of tartan

A little piece of tartan

Susan Cowe Miller – Hampshire-EFT
How can I help you, to set your mind free?

Everyone’s subconscious
Controlling our behaviour
Has no sense of right or wrong
So what can be your Saviour?

Well, your subconscious can be tricked
Into new ways of thinking
So your mental blocks will melt away
As quick(er)ly as blinking

EFT can help with what ?
Phobia, confidence, I kid you not!

IBS, Trauma, low Self-esteem,
Or Anxiety or Anger- I hear you scream!

Divorce, Poor Health - All the big issues
Mother/Child Bonding- - we reach for the tissues!

With guidance from listening and your sense of choice
The Tartan Tapper will hear your voice.
I guide you through changes - you THINK are so tricky
With ease and with humour, some tea and a bickie.

© Copyright Susan Cowe Miller 2015

EFT Tapping Workshop: What’s it all about?

I can, I will

I can, I will

Hello everyone, I am advertising my latest Workshop ‘EFT Tapping- What’s it all about?’

After a thrilling weekend at The Matrix Reimprinting Convention I am running a back to basics Workshop.

“An Introduction to EFT” 

Discover the effectiveness of this simple tool which at basic level offers a real sense of confidence, empowerment and a belief that you CAN and WILL succeed with tasks,  plans and dreams. Think of Nadiya Hussain’s emotive thank you speech at the Great British Bake Off.

Tapping is a well respected treatment to reduce stress and anxiety; huge effort is being made for EFT to be recognised within the powerful NHS system.

Find details and book at Eventbrite

or email:

Liz Merritt
We all enjoyed your talk immensely,so thank you!
Thank you for all your information and resources.
Liz M. Havant Complementary Health Group
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Rachel – Psychology graduate
I was quite surprised with my session of EFT, and especially the Matrix Reimprinting which I hadn't experienced before.
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Chris Elmes
Thank you so much for talking to us about EFT – a subject which, pretty obviously, none of us had the first clue about!
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