When pondering over which hard hitting realistic blog to write, the one about an alcoholic ruining your life was up there but I decided instead to share this chapter on Forgiveness from my book Survive and Thrive after Trauma .
Chapter on Forgiveness
”Forgiveness is letting go of the need for revenge and releasing negative thoughts of bitterness and resentment.
OK, this is a real big one. If you know an unforgiving, bitter or resentful person, you can sense it in every fibre of their being, whether it is a set look on their face, the tone in their voice, or their body is literally showing signs of being bitter and twisted.
My difficulty to forgive was based on this… Our children should have been reason enough for my husband to tidy up his act; to stay alive. His children were the most important people in his life, or so I believed. In that respect, for a while, I equated his death to a form of suicide. I felt anger over that. Or was it pain and hurt? Continue reading