When pondering over which hard hitting realistic blog to write, the one about an alcoholic ruining your life was up there but I decided instead to share this chapter on Forgiveness from my book Survive and Thrive after Trauma .
Chapter on Forgiveness
”Forgiveness is letting go of the need for revenge and releasing negative thoughts of bitterness and resentment.
OK, this is a real big one. If you know an unforgiving, bitter or resentful person, you can sense it in every fibre of their being, whether it is a set look on their face, the tone in their voice, or their body is literally showing signs of being bitter and twisted.
My difficulty to forgive was based on this… Our children should have been reason enough for my husband to tidy up his act; to stay alive. His children were the most important people in his life, or so I believed. In that respect, for a while, I equated his death to a form of suicide. I felt anger over that. Or was it pain and hurt? Continue reading
Goal Setting Visualisation. Allow your senses to take your goal and make it reality.
Happy Christmas to those dealing with the loss of a loved one. Christmas time is quite challenging for many. A juxtaposition of glitzy, bright shiny objects, happy families pulling crackers and stuffing their faces with an abundance of food whilst others have feelings of dread, acute moments of loss, isolation or just plain old sadness. Continue reading
It’s that time of year again so out comes my Tapping routine to see you through the festive season with credibility intact!
A couple of helpful tips:
Ok when we rate our fear/anger/worry around the issue – O is low – 10 means Action Time!
We state very specifically where we feel distress in our body eg in our head, on our shoulders, in our legs e.g. this deep sickening feeling in my gut/ this headache that just won’t let up
Let’s begin…. Continue reading
At your peril
What a super time I had when interviewed by the lovely Josephine Pembroke for Radio Gorgeous. We discussed EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) or Tapping as it’s often called and Josephine was especially interested in Matrix Reimprinting the wonderful extension of EFT developed by Karl Dawson.
So have you been challenged by
If YES then have a listen and if not there is still much to take away. I came out the other end of all these concurrent traumas and amazingly remarried last year!
We discussed my book ‘Survive and Thrive after Trauma‘. A no holes barred interview but then I am a realist and only express myself well when being truly authentic. The book is in three parts:
Sometimes life sets us big challenges, harsh truths may be spoken or received and fundamentally if a decision does not feel right for you- then it is not a correct decision.
Here is a copy of the recording. Radio Gorgeous with Susan Cowe Miller
Survive and Thrive after Trauma is available on Amazon in hardback and in Kindle form.
There is something for everyone on Radio Gorgeous; it’s fun, edgy and sometimes quite controversial!
Simple and effective technique to lower stress and anxiety: give yourself the gift of HeartMath Breathing. We think too much: this calms. For the times when challenged by overwhelm, anger, any strong negative debilitating emotion.
1. Close your eyes and relax.
2. Place your hand over your heart and focus your attention into that area.
3. Breathe deeply but normally and feel as if your breath is coming in and out of your heart area.
4. Begin to regulate your breathing to a count of six.
5. Breathe for a count of six seconds into your heart space.
6. Breathe for a count of 6 out of your heart space.
7. Keep breathing in for six and breathing out for six.
8. Do this for 2 minutes if you can and focus on your heart area.
This edited version strongly follows a section in ‘Transform Your Beliefs Transform Your Life- EFT Tapping using Matrix Reimprinting‘ by Karl Dawson and Kate Marillat.