In 2012 I wrote my book: Survive and Thrive after Trauma. Very recently I have become aware of quiet and regular interest; my book is being bought more frequently. I took this as a message from beyond and decided to re-read all of it. I realised that I felt a welcome and pleasurable shift in perception. I now have a sense of genuine pride and worthiness; a lessened default sense of fear and anger which usually felt present when I Marketed in the past. I had a renewed sense that I was always correct to write this book; the book which I knew would be potentially beneficial, useful and helpful to those carrying emotional scars.
So, Survive and Thrive after Trauma is a book of three parts:
- My autobiographical end of a marriage; divorce, alcoholism, death.
- Short descriptions of many healing modalities.
- Others detailing what helped them through their journey of emotional trauma.
A sense of feeling uncomfortable
I have always quietly promoted my book. Not in your face stuff. I would mention it occasionally at Networking; I would leave a copy for folks to flick through. But I always had a feeling of being uncomfortable around my promoting. It’s not exactly something that is light-hearted or safe; it’s rather the stuff of nightmares I expect. I no longer have this Angst sensation; the feeling which certainly stopped me from having a book launch.
Why the angst?
In my mind the understandable fears and anxieties around my two big children, and of course some reservation around my present husband Herb. He actually has been a wonderful help with the book and has never be anything less than encouraging. I am the one who had a Cringe Factor; a quiet sense of feeling uncomfortable about shouting my mouth off about this book that I had written.
How I feel today
However I reread the book recently and was quite flabbergasted because I thought:
- This is good.
- This is exactly what I was trying to achieve.
- This is just the raw, honest, nothing missed out stuff which I seemed compelled to share.
- This includes all the things I believed then and today which can help those carrying emotional scars.
- I feel proud of my work; I did a bloody good job with this.
- I am more relaxed about it.
I do still hold onto a fear, a worry that I am causing my children angst but I am not one to shy away from tough stuff. Our life’s drama has been a topic of conversation between us for years. Quite frankly I often found it depressing because I seemed unable to be allowed to ignore it. I often felt confused about the role I was supposed to play with our children. However I have been completely blessed with my now grown up family. I have 2 grand children and can have visits to Australia courtesy of our two splendid young people. My love for them is of course unconditional.
The three of us are all individuals and our psyche holds the key in how we process and live our lives. We have all dealt and are dealing with the anxieties imprinted on our soul. One child took some interest in the book; one child did not. If you have ever seen the film, A Bridge of Spies with Tom Hanks and Mark Rylance; there is one line I laughed out loud at when I heard it. It’s about worrying. Worrying is such a complete and utter waste of time, yet many of us live our lives worrying. We give it power and maybe have a sense that worrying maintains a position of seemingly great importance. What fools some of us are.
A Work in Progress or Letting Go
I have done a huge amount of self work over 15 years. I have certainly not been a slave to it though. I am fascinated by the importance that Feelings and Emotions have on our body. When I was learning my levels of Counselling Skills around 2007, for such a long time I would say:
‘I don’t know what I feel but I know what I think.’ I now understand the difference.
I am and always will be a work in progress; we all are. If we were perfect, life would be boring and we would die out, don’t you think?
I believe I am much less angry. However I still have a default negative area in a need to fill my time; not brilliant at relaxing, doing nothing. I do run the emotional state of cramming much into my life. I expect that is because I know life can be cut short. Just being Mindful is useful! Just Letting Go is the ideal; difficult to truly achieve as we are always that work in progress.
We can all change; we can clear negative memories and negative habits by facing our little demons. It is very self-nourishing when we feel good about ourselves or something we have achieved.
What you can do
If you know someone who can benefit from reading my book please share the link Survive and Thrive after Trauma, buy it for a friend or family member who is struggling emotionally.
Sometimes it is incredibly difficult to get out of one’s own way; it’s called Self-Sabotage. You can help someone close to you. So what if they tell you to buggar off. A seed of interest may have got through to them.
EFT and Matrix ReImprinting
Time is of course a healer but the residue of emotional trauma is still held at cellular level in the body. That cellular imprint is what can determine physical health problems both big and small. EFT and Matrix ReImprinting are recocognised as impressive healing modalities, beneficial in helping the release of past trauma, negative blocks and negative beliefs. Much information is available on my website: Hampshire-EFT
My area of keen interest: The Why of Physical Illness – How Emotional Trauma and Stress affects us directly e.g. recurring illness, chronic illness, life threatening disease and illness. Meta Health Analysis can inform us which direction to question a client. We then use EFT based treatment to aid the removal of dormant trauma; the root cause!
How I can Help You: I am an EFT, Matrix ReImprinting practitioner, a Reiki practitioner and have high levels of Counselling Skills. I intend fully developing and studying the Why we are ill path from a Meta Health perspective.
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